Fantastic tip to eliminate stress and find your keys every time!

Fantastic tip to eliminate stress and find your keys every time!

Find your lost keys every time!

 Want to learn how to find your keys, wallet or phone easily?

In my book Getting to the Heart of Stress  I have developed The Heartnicity Method which uses Awareness Acceptance and action to support you to live a conscious, joyful life on purpose.

With this in mind…I have an Awareness practice for you for eliminating and managing stress. over one specific area of your life.

Finding misplaced stuff!

Have you ever lost your keys inside the house? Who hasn’t? How about your wallet? Your phone? Your glasses? Are they on your head? The note with that important phone number you need? Or how about your handbag, charger or iPad? The list goes on doesn’t it?

Have you every stressed out about this? Running to get out the door? Need to be somewhere? Ahh!!

I used to spend so much time searching and searching and then cursing myself and stressing out over where I had put things plus it always happened when I most needed the thing!! Grrr. It was so frustrating!

This little awareness practice means that this rarely happens to me these days. Here it is.

  1. When you put the item down consciously look at where you are placing it
  2. Say the name of the item out loud. For example, “keys”

This implants the memory in both visual and spatial memory making it more likely to be recalled later. It is especially good if you put something down in an unusual place. I use it at home all the time but it’s especially useful if I am at someone else’s home or office or if I leave something in an odd spot.

  1. When you go to look later say the word out loud again “keys”

This stimulates the neural pathway that you locked in place with the language and the image.

I recently left my phone on the laundry window sill to prevent it from accidentally falling in the tub and I knew this was an odd spot to put it. So I did the thing … said out loud, “phone” and clocked where I put it. Sure enough two hours later when I went to check my phone, it was not in my bag or any of the usual places and I thought to myself, as you do, “where is it”?

Instantly the neural network sprang into action with the image of where I had left my phone appeared in my mind. Easy!

I have found this little strategy to be a fantastic stress management tool in terms of reducing the frustration and pressure that comes when I’m frantically looking for something. I hope you find it useful too. Let me know how you go.

Awareness is the first step in the Heartnicity Method.  You can buy a hard copy of my book at Heartnicity.com or follow the link Getting to the Heart of Stress .

The next Getting to the Heart of Stress one day programs have just been scheduled for 8 July 2018 in Crows Nest, Sydney and 16 June 2018 in Coffs Harbour NSW. Please subscribe to this blog for notifications of more program dates and locations.

If you subscribe to my YouTubechannel, I will thank you by sending a link for your free copy of my eBook Getting to the Heart of Stress. Remember to let me know that you have subscribed in the comments section and click on the little bell next to the YouTube subscribe button so that you are notified when videos are posted.

I look forward to sharing with you again soon.  Love, kisses, hugs and masses of gratitude to you for being you.

Love

Margie xoxo

The crucial key to losing weight that the big weight loss companies don’t tell you

The crucial key to losing weight that the big weight loss companies don’t tell you

After years of trying just about every diet on the planet, I just lost 18 kilos! So, how did I do it?

I am going to tell the secret straight up. There is one vital key that all the many programs, including Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig etc that I have tried have not taught me in a useful way. The crucial key to permanently losing weight is… MOTIVATION!

“Without the ‘correct’ motivation, the method, system or plan you choose to manage your weight will be of no long-term use”.

Yes that’s right. No use.

How do I know this? Let me tell you a story… When I was 15 years old, I joined the first Weight Watchers group in Auckland New Zealand. That was decades ago, and I think it is safe to say that I am a ‘Lifetime Member’. I had made a new friend, named Terry, who was from America and her mother had moved to NZ to start Weight Watchers there, which was a burgeoning business in the US at that time. 

I remember so well that dark, cold and drizzly evening in Auckland CBD. As I made my way to the meeting, I began to contemplate the ensuing deprivation, so I made a stop at the milk bar and as I stood around the corner from the stairway leading to the room in which we were meeting, I anxiously devoured 2 (not 1 but 2!) Chokito bars. Anyone remember them? A thick cover of chocolate with rice bubbles inserted into the chocolate layer and fudge in the middle. Yummy.

Anyway, with scarcity, hunger and self-denial looming, I STUFFED THEM DOWN! I was ravenous.  The photo here is me with my friends when I was 15 years old in 1971. Jossy is in the middle, Terry is on the right and that’s me in the pink. I weighed 8 stone. Yes, I weighed 50 kilos and was my current height of 165 centimetres so had a BMI of 18.4! I thought I was “so fat” and was “too embarrassed” to go swimming.

How the hell and why the heck did Weight Watchers even let me join? But they did because money trumped health then and it still does.

This unfortunate scenario pretty well sums up the next 43 years of my life up to 2 years ago. Dieting, losing, gaining, gaining, gaining, dieting, losing… well you get it. Over and over and over again.

 

Like so many women who are desperate to lose weight, I had a psychological demon to wrestle with every moment of my life. I hated my body, felt ashamed and like a failure. I wrestled with myself and my self-worth was inextricably intertwined with my body image and weight.

I have joined and left Weight Watchers at least 15 times, spent a lot of money on meetings, snack bars and trying to cheat the system. I have so many books on dieting and nutrition it is downright impressive! I just opened iBook on my phone to see what I have there and without really trying I found the following titles:

  • Hungry for Change
  • Eat Fat, Get Thin
  • The 8-week Blood Sugar Diet
  • The 17 Day
  • BBC – What’s the Right Diet?
  • 190 Vegetarian Recipes
  • Breakfast with Benefits
  • Easy Vegan Meals
  • The Fast Diet
  • The Great Cholesterol Myth
  • The Perfect Gene Diet
  • The Paleo Answer
  • The 4-Hour Body

I haven’t even checked iTunes on my PC (for books that haven’t been synced to my phone), nor have I checked Kindle or Kobo or Audible books and of course there are dozens of ‘real’ [paper] books on my bookshelves which are all packed with the same fodder (excuse the pun). Oh dear…

I have a LOT of knowledge but none of it helped until my mind was in the right place and none of it got me anywhere but fatter and fatter with short intermissions of thinner and thinner. So, you want to know what I have learned that has led me to successfully lose and maintain a healthy weight of 64 kilos? So here is it again…

Without the ‘correct’ motivation, the method, system or plan you choose to manage your weight will be of no long-term use.

Yep. You can put as much effort into dieting as you want over a lifetime but unless you have a motivating reason to change, it’s a huge waste of time and money because your willpower will fail one day when you see a crispy cream, or your friend is eating nachos smothered in melted cheese and guacamole. You will indulge, and you will feel like crap and then you will think that you may as well eat Maccas and gelato and pizza cause you’ve fallen off the wagon now anyway. That’s when self-hatred returns, and the kilos come back on. Rapidly. Sound familiar?

Motivation needs to be in line with your heart, your values and your willingness to feel happy. I strongly suggest you spend as much time as you need clarifying this first because “I want to avoid the shame I feel for being fat” just isn’t going to do it.

I love coaching people who are ready for this. It can take a few sessions, but I see the results in my clients and it is such a joy. I found my personal motivation, but it probably won’t be yours.

Here’s me 2 years ago before I found my motivation. 82 kilos and unwell. 

I woke up on New Year’s Day 2016 in pain. I had sore fingers, wrists, ankles and feet. It was horrible, and I knew what it was… arthritis. After a month (and a lifetime) of drinking and socialising, eating whatever I wanted with as much sugar as I wanted, my body and my immune system finally gave up the ghost and sent me a loud and clear message.

“Dear Margie, I cannot take this anymore! I am inflamed all over! I am sick, and this cannot go on!”

But it could. It had gone on… for years. It’s just that my body had finally fallen off some autoimmune cliff, so to speak, and my leaky gut had leaked one too many bits of whatever it is that should never have gotten through the barrier a healthy gut provides.

It was a reality check. A wake-up call. My genetic predisposition had been ignited. Don’t think this is ‘just for older women’ either. Our genetic switches can be turned on at any time. I have met plenty of women in their 20’s and 30’s struggling with autoimmune issues as well as candida, SIBO, diabetes, obesity, acne and many other health issues.

Mine sat dormant for decades while I punished myself with fad diets, alcohol, sugar and bags of processed chips and crap. It finally tipped into a reaction, like levels in that old-style board game, Mouse Trap. You can ignore it and pretend you are fine but in the end your body doesn’t lie.

So, I set about looking for solutions. I knew had a book somewhere about autoimmune diseases and inflammation (of course) lol. I had done several ‘anti-inflam’ diets and I was sure I had a wall chart somewhere about the 20 best foods to avoid and the top 20 foods to eat (superfoods of course).

I began the experiment with a sample of one, me!  I commenced trying different types of alcohol to find which ones I could tolerate but alas, after a year of testing gin, vodka, low-carb everything, low-alcohol everything, champagne only (I liked that phase) and red wine (lots of red wine) I had to admit that nothing had worked. In fact, things were worse. My fingers ached, they were red and sore, and I now had spurs growing on the ends of all my joints! Eek.

On 1 December 2016, I made the unexpected decision to GIVE UP ALCOHOL! What? I had been drinking since I was 14 so it was a surprise to everyone and especially to me. Some friends implored me not to. I couldn’t even believe it myself. Yet it was the only thing I had not tested in my one-person experiment on alcohol and its effects on arthritis.

Surprisingly, arthritis became my friend, my barometer and my gift. The constant motivator on my quest for health. And it did not stop at alcohol because while my symptoms reduced, they were far from gone. I needed to look further, and I needed to address both my nutrition and also my external environment. I needed to reduce the toxic load.

You might be thinking “well that’s all right for her, but I don’t have arthritis, so where am I going to get MY motivation”?

You know, the most disturbing thing I learned along the way? If you are overweight, have hormonal issues, IBS, are lacking energy, have aching joints, difficulty jumping out of bed or any of a million ‘signs of ill health’ then you probably have low grade inflammation. Here’s a few more symptoms from the Medical News Today  website.

  • arthritis
  • asthma
  • peptic ulcer
  • periodontitis (gum disease)
  • ulcerative colitis and Crohn’s disease
  • sinusitis
  • hepatitis
  • cancer
  • hay fever

What shocked me was discovering that if we have any of the symptoms of inflammation in one place, we HAVE INFLAMMATION EVERYWHERE! Brain, heart, liver, blood etc. The body does not discriminate or section bits off. Inflammation is pervasive in the body. Remember alzheimer’s starts in your 20’s.

If you are looking for motivation, most of us need look no further! This is about quality of life.

So, what did I do?

I put the Heartnicity Method into practice.

  1. Awareness – I did some research, spoke to my GP and faced the facts that my symptoms were the outcome of years of ignoring the early warning signs.
  2. Acceptance – I surrendered to the face that I would have arthritis for the rest of my life and that I could ease the symptoms by changing my ways.
  3. Action – I found my heart-based motivation for action which was to value myself, love my body and finally care for myself in a loving, practical and healing way.

You can find out more about my method on the book Getting to the Heart of Stress. See how to get your free eBook copy below.

I found an excellent protocol for healing my gut and repairing my immune system. I used an AIP (Autoimmune Protocol) called The Myers Way but there are plenty of others. It is basically an elimination diet for a month and then you gradually add foods back in. I have been adding back for a while and have identified an intolerance for legumes, nuts, seeds, dairy and all gluten which is incredibly inconvenient but well tested now and a reality at present.

Plus, I have lost my obsession with eating and food. I love to eat but will miss a meal or have a smoothie instead sometimes. Not eating bread is the hardest and there is no replacement because all ‘gluten free’ products and seeds are a no-no for my tricky little fingers too.

Here I am quite literally today…

 

That voracious ‘Chokito’ eating monster in my head has almost gone (almost lol) which is good, but the best news is that I am IN REMISSION from arthritis most days! Yay!

If I eat too much sugar or accidentally eat gluten when I am out, then I know about it within 24 hours. I am finely attuned to my bodily reactions but not obsessive. I eat lots. I eat well. I eat organic, grass fed and probably less variety. Lots of veggies and yummy coconut everything.  I eat organic chocolate! I do ok… It’s a modified paleo diet with some of the paleo staples (like nuts & sees) removed.

The first 10 kilos fell of when I gave up alcohol. The next 8 also dissolved without effort when I stopped eating grains, sugar, legumes and processed foods. As my dear friend and brilliant yoga teacher Bernadette Arena says “it’s not rocket surgery” (check out her amazing Yoga Nidra CD here).

When my resolve weakens, and I want a piece of that delicious smelling, organic sourdough toast, I look down to my dear fingers and I remember how they feel when they ache. How it used to take 10 minutes to ‘warm my feet up’ every morning and how that’s no longer a problem. How I used to be a size 16 and now wear a size 12 and how I love being able to wear nice clothes again.

I love life! My motivation is more than ‘not wanting arthritis’ or look good. It’s wanting to be able to walk freely, to avoid future hip and knee replacements, to take up more challenging yoga, to think clearly and to sit on the floor cross legged with children. My goodness, I have started having baths again and didn’t even notice I had stopped because I could not get out safely any longer! I know I am going to die but I want to live well until I do.

And you can too! Take some time to establish your motivation for becoming healthy and it will change your life. Then you can apply it anywhere! Weight, career, home, relationships. This is the most crucial foundation for all your goals. Special note: remember to always seek your own medical advice as our bodies are complex and no issue can be nailed down to ‘just a lack of motivation’. I am just saying that without the motivation to regain our health, all of the strategies are harder to apply.

If you want support for your own weight loss and health recovery, then subscribe to this blog as I am just finalising dates for workshops on life purpose, stress and living on your path of heart for the second half of 2018.  My annual Phenomenal Woman Retreat is nearly set too so stay tuned.

I would love to help you find your motivation and support you to leave the self-loathing behind, love yourself and love life for as long as possible.

Please join me each week by subscribing to my blog. Plus, if you subscribe to my YouTube channel, I will thank you by sending a link for your free copy of my eBook Getting to the Heart of Stress. Remember to let me know that you have subscribed in the comments section. Remember to click on the little bell next to the YouTube subscribe button so that you are notified when videos are posted. 

 

I look forward to sharing with you next week. I post on Saturdays at 3pm.  Love, kisses, hugs and masses of gratitude to you for being you. Remember to Love Life!

Love you, Love you, Love you

Margie xoxo

Do you Love Life? Free eBook Getting to the Heart of Stress!

Do you Love Life? Free eBook Getting to the Heart of Stress!

In 2015 I went into a spiral of worry about money, about my health, about my relationship with my husband, about my career and about life in general. I was teetering on the edge of an emotional bottomless pit and my whole life seemed to be moving in a downward vortex of depression and anxiety which both came knocking in a serious way and since then I have relearned how to Love Life!

 

 

As a psychotherapist and teacher, I knew the answer wasn’t about the external circumstances, though Goddess knows I wanted to change them.

I went back to therapy and through the love and support of a wonderful therapist, I came to recognise that fundamentally, I felt stressed out all the time. The causes of the stress were ‘real’ enough but I needed to understand why I felt so helpless and such a victim to the ravages of stress both mentally and physically.

My blog is for women. I love men, but I reckon most of my followers are phenomenal women who are seekers and want to feel competent, happy and balanced. You want to manage the stresses of everyday life like motherhood, being a partner, being single, working like crazy and keeping all the balls in the air and have an interest in living a conscious life, feeling full of joy, living in a way that values others and most importantly yourself. You make responsible, sustainable choices that benefit both humanity and planet earth. and can genuinely and authentically say I “Love Life!” (yes there will a t-shirt or more likely an organic cotton Yoga singlet)

I choose not to accept that this is “as good as it gets” and I never will. I want to keep growing until the day I die (which is approaching faster than I would like lol). I have always wanted answers, so when life turned to shit, I set out to re-design my life from the ground up. What that meant was I had to essentially re-design myself.

Since I launched Heartnicity in 2015 and publishing Getting to the Heart of Stress, I have presented a range of workshops and retreats  to support other women, given up alcohol, taken up yoga, completely changed my diet, lost 18 kilos and reached a new level of intimacy with my life partner.

In the process I’ve crystallised all I’ve learnt from many years as a therapist and educator into a simple 3 step method called The Heartnicity Method and I’m going to share with you what it’s like to put that into practice. I invite you into my life to see how I approach the stressful environments of 21st century living with Awareness, Acceptance and making heart-based choices and Action that keep me living on my Path of Heart.

I have had so much pleasure rediscovering my love of fashion, beauty and all the other ‘Toys of Life’ stuff and really feel good about my self-image again. I am on a beautiful and delightful path of self-care…

So, would you like to join me? Then just subscribe to my YouTube channel! I will be uploading every Saturday.

I plan to explore the Big Questions like:

What’s the point if we’re all going to die anyway? Will I ever be happy? How do I manage stress well? What’s in the way of me Loving Life? Can I love clothes, makeup and shopping and still be spiritual? What is glowing good health? and how do I get me some?

Here are some words that capture what I’m all about!

Conscious, Natural, Organic, Education, Mindful, Cutting Edge, Science,  Neuroscience, Reality, Authentic, Joy, Meditation, Yoga, Nutrition, Fashion, Beauty, Healthy Ageing, Books, Blogs, Technology, Spirituality, Duality, Remarkable Women, Health, Friends, Lovers, Personal Development, Fun, Leisure, Sex After 50, Celibacy, Travel, Finances, Freedom, Plants, Family, Sanctuary, Gorgeous Clothes, Beautiful Bed Linen, Feminism, Body Image, Growing Organic Stuff, Making Natural Stuff, Smelling Adorable Stuff, Connecting With Others, The Wisdom Of Women, Walking Barefoot, Sand Between My Toes, Salt Air, Mountains, Australian Bush, Love, Solitude and Big Naps.

I’m going to be interviewing women who are aligned with me and discovering what motivates them. I’ve got some gorgeous product ideas to share with you and maybe even some giveaways on the horizon, so we can all feel just a bit more adored and nurtured.

There will be live events, retreats, webinars, video logs and links to great stuff I find out about that I think you might love too!

I want you to feel inspired to grow, educated to know and motivated to glow…

Join me each week by subscribing to my blog. Plus, if you subscribe to my YouTube channel, I will thank you by sending a link for your free copy of my eBook Getting to the Heart of Stress. Tell a friend who also subscribes, and I will send them a copy too!

The video log on my YouTube page is part of the new incarnation of my inner Boggess so I have cleared the history and as a result, YouTube is a bit sparse, but I will be adding regularly.

I really believe you can love your life more as you travel on your path and I look forward to sharing with you how I have done this and how you can too.

Love, kisses, hugs and masses of gratitude to you for reading until the end. As my dear friend Mirva says “Love you, Love you, Love you!”

Margie xoxo

Phenomenal Woman Retreat 17-19 Nov 17 Killcare Beach

Phenomenal Woman Retreat 17-19 Nov 17 Killcare Beach

Phenomenal Woman 

by MAYA ANGELOU

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.

I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size

But when I start to tell them,

They think I’m telling lies.

I say,

It’s in the reach of my arms,

The span of my hips,

The stride of my step,

The curl of my lips.

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

Phenomenal Woman Retreat

Beautiful, sensual and connected retreat for women only at Killcare Beach for the Phenomenal woman that you truly are. Venue will be 38 Beach Drive Killcare with another house close by for extra accommodation. We will be meditating, laughing, dancing, walking on the beach, dreaming in rainbow colours and most of all reminding ourselves of being the beautiful women we all are. You will leave upllifted, nourished and full of joy.

In the spirit of community, I will be asking each woman to contribute to one meal each. You will receive a menu to choose from. Numbers will be limited. Single and shared accommodation will be available (single room will have a premium added) and you will need to bring your own linen.For more details go to the Heartnicity website

$350 shared room

$425 single room

Arrive from 4 pm Friday 17 November – Depart by 3 pm Sunday 19 November 2017

 

Numbers Limited

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What is Nataraj Meditation anyway?

What is Nataraj Meditation anyway?

Nataraj meditation? Is it as weird and wonderful as it sounds?

Nataraja comes from ancient Sanskrit and means  “the lord of dance” and is a depiction of the Hindu god Shiva as the cosmic ecstatic dancer.

The contemporary form of Nataraj Meditation, which we will practice on the Uplift – Special One Day Event, is all about the energy of dance. This practice uses dance as a meditation, where all inner separation may dissolve leaving a subtle, relaxed awareness in its place.

Having participated in many of these meditations in my life, I have to say that it is a very special experience and not one that  you can find out there easily without going to India!

Osho, who was one of the teachers who brought this meditation to the West last century said, “Forget the dancer, the centre of the ego; become the dance. That is the meditation. Dance so deeply that you forget completely that ‘you’ are dancing and begin to feel that you are the dance. The division must disappear; then it becomes a meditation.

“If the division is there, then it is an exercise: good, healthy, but it cannot be said to be spiritual. It is just a simple dance. Dance is good in itself – as far as it goes it is good. After it, you will feel fresh, young. But it is not meditation yet. The dancer must go, until only the dance remains…. Don’t stand aside, don’t be an observer. Participate!

“And be playful. Remember the word playful always – with me it is very basic.” Osho

If you are worried that this is some hippy, interpretive dance scenario, then rest assured. It is just a movement meditation. It is aimed at offering you an inner experience where your eyes will be, for the most part, closed. You can choose to move with the music in any way that works for you. It is not about comparing dance styles or feeling embarassed. It is an internal process. It is not about being on a ‘dance floor’ like in a disco or at a party. It is about an experience of yourself as you move to the music.

You will either enjoy the exercise and gain the benefits of movement or you may experience the deeper meditative state that sometimes happens. Even though you do not interact with others, dancing in a group also adds to the experience and energy.

Here’s how it works in practice:

The meditation has three stages, lasting a total of 65 minutes.

First Stage: 40 minutes

With eyes closed, dance or move in any way that feels good to you to as you allow yourself to be swept up in the beautiful music. Let your unconscious take over completely. Do not try control your movements or witness what is happening. Just be totally in the dance. Slow down or speed up at will. Just keep moving even if you slow down.

Second Stage: 20 minutes

The music stops. Keeping your eyes closed, lie down immediately. You may cover yourself with a small blanket to prevent getting cold. Be silent and still.

Third Stage: 5 minutes

As the music commences again, dance in celebration and enjoy.

The benefits are physical and mental as you move the body and clear your lymph system with movement which may be accompanied by a sense of uplift and expansiveness mentally from flooding your body with all the happy chemicals produced when you move and feel pleasure.

If you have always wanted to try it out or if this appeals to you, then please come and join us for this wonderful event.

Uplift!

This uplifting experiential workshop will improve your health, wealth and wisdom by raising your vibration through dynamic movement, meditation, dance, gratitude, and joy: all while creating a compelling life vision for yourself.

Saturday 24 June 2017 – Crows Nest Centre, Sydney 9am – 4 pm

 

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Outer Peace, Inner Peace – has the pendulum swung too far?

Outer Peace, Inner Peace – has the pendulum swung too far?

We hear all the time about change being an inside job. Inner peace, world peace right? And I absolutely agree with this. My book, Getting to the Heart of Stress uses a method based on Awareness, Acceptance and heart based Action so that you can change your perceptions and your sense of reality and thereby increase your capacity to choose the life you want.

Leading a conscious life is important and requires a practice of taking time to look within. To dig up your subconscious and discover the erroneous beliefs that drive your unconscious choices can free you. All incredibly important and I have devoted my life to the pursuit of consciousness and to teaching others the same.

I also think that we sometimes swing so far in one direction, that we forget to hold some balance.

A part of making choices is to choose what’s on the outside too. Here are some questions I ask myself to help clarify the outside stuff:

1.       Who?

2.       What?

3.       Where?

1. Who? Who are the people in my life that I associate with regularly? Is there anyone on this list who I would rather spend less time with or not be in relationship with? Who? What stops me changing this? Why do I spend time with them when I feel worse for the experience? I am not saying it is easy to do this. Plus making the choice to keep some people in our lives who we might wish to see less of is a valid choice. I reckon we are often related to these people! Who do you want to govern you? Who do I want to work for? Play with? Love with?

2. What? What material objects do I want around me in my home, my office, my wardrobe? What job do I want? Am I in it? What could I do to move towards it? What do I want on my outside? What’s between me and having it? What books do I want in my home, what furniture, what people? Good questions.  Our environment has a huge impact on us.

“Environment is stronger than willpower…” Petrea King

(You will know this is true if you have ever tried to go on a diet or give up smoking around others who are still smoking or eating crap). So what’s in my environment? What would I change? What do  I want and need around me? What do I want on my outside?

3. Where? Where do I want to live, work, rest, play, holiday, exercise? Where would I be if I could choose somewhere else out there to be? Am I happy here? Maybe the answer will be yes and if not, then why not and where would I prefer to be? Where do I want to be on my outside?

These questions help me to get clear on what I need to be with, to live with and where I want to be as I travel. It’s not easy defining ourselves but we need healthy boundaries. It’s ok to say no. To choose. And it’s appropriate to make choices about ‘out there’ as well as ‘in here’.

Yes, we are responsible for how we perceive ‘out there’ and it is an ongoing lifelong and rewarding inner journey to own our projections. I am all about Acceptance of what is but this does not mean that you can’t make choices and set boundaries.  So, I encourage you to include your outer journey as you go. It’s part of the travel package and the good news is that you get to choose.

I do love the Serenity Prayer.

‘God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference’.

Happy travels going to the places you love and having the courage to change the things you can on your journey.

Margie x