We hear all the time about change being an inside job. Inner peace, world peace right? And I absolutely agree with this. My book, Getting to the Heart of Stress uses a method based on Awareness, Acceptance and heart based Action so that you can change your perceptions and your sense of reality and thereby increase your capacity to choose the life you want.
Leading a conscious life is important and requires a practice of taking time to look within. To dig up your subconscious and discover the erroneous beliefs that drive your unconscious choices can free you. All incredibly important and I have devoted my life to the pursuit of consciousness and to teaching others the same.
I also think that we sometimes swing so far in one direction, that we forget to hold some balance.
A part of making choices is to choose what’s on the outside too. Here are some questions I ask myself to help clarify the outside stuff:
1. Who? Who are the people in my life that I associate with regularly? Is there anyone on this list who I would rather spend less time with or not be in relationship with? Who? What stops me changing this? Why do I spend time with them when I feel worse for the experience? I am not saying it is easy to do this. Plus making the choice to keep some people in our lives who we might wish to see less of is a valid choice. I reckon we are often related to these people! Who do you want to govern you? Who do I want to work for? Play with? Love with?
2. What? What material objects do I want around me in my home, my office, my wardrobe? What job do I want? Am I in it? What could I do to move towards it? What do I want on my outside? What’s between me and having it? What books do I want in my home, what furniture, what people? Good questions.Our environment has a huge impact on us.
(You will know this is true if you have ever tried to go on a diet or give up smoking around others who are still smoking or eating crap). So what’s in my environment? What would I change? What do I want and need around me? What do I want on my outside?
3. Where? Where do I want to live, work, rest, play, holiday, exercise? Where would I be if I could choose somewhere else out there to be? Am I happy here? Maybe the answer will be yes and if not, then why not and where would I prefer to be? Where do I want to be on my outside?
These questions help me to get clear on what I need to be with, to live with and where I want to be as I travel. It’s not easy defining ourselves but we need healthy boundaries. It’s ok to say no. To choose. And it’s appropriate to make choices about ‘out there’ as well as ‘in here’.
Yes, we are responsible for how we perceive ‘out there’ and it is an ongoing lifelong and rewarding inner journey to own our projections. I am all about Acceptance of what is but this does not mean that you can’t make choices and set boundaries. So, I encourage you to include your outer journey as you go. It’s part of the travel package and the good news is that you get to choose.
I do love the Serenity Prayer.
‘God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference’.
Happy travels going to the places you love and having the courage to change the things you can on your journey.
As usual, I was thinking about stress and anxiety the other day and I found myself dreaming about a time when people may not have felt as much of it as they do today. I wondered to myself … when did we all become so stressed? What happened?
I thought about my grandmother who married and had her children In the late 1920’s and early 1930’s. While life was not always easy, I don’t think her life was as stressful as young mums of today. She was born in 1900 and lived through World War I, but her family owned a successful business in Auburn and were reasonably well off and I think she was shielded from much of the emotional stress associated with that war.
She raised her children with another war looming and subsequently in progress during the 1940’s which I imagine would have been hugely stressful for her and for all Australians. I know she felt lucky and probably dodged some stress, because her only son was just a bit too young to be conscripted. He was born in 1931 so he was still a child when war broke out.
Grandma lived in a different time. After they married, they soon saved up enough from Grandad’s wage as a fitter and turner to buy a house in Strathfield, which they paid cash for in the late 1920’s. They bought and sold a couple of houses until they settled in the late 1930’s in Epping. Grandma never worked for money.
Can you imagine a tradie supporting 3 children and a wife in a single income family saving up enough in a couple of years to pay cash for a house in Strathfield (Sydney) today?
Fresh milk and bread were delivered every day, shops like the butcher and green grocer were local and, like everyone in those days, Grandma grew a lot of fruit and vegetables in her lovely, rambling back yard. My uncle still lives there which is kind of cool and nostalgic. I have great such great memories of eating peas, peaches and mulberries hot from the sun and picked fresh off the plants. It was my own garden of paradise during my childhood in the 1960’s.
My grandmother’s generation bridged two very different cultural eras. Australia was a different place, after World War II, than the world in which she grew up.
After the war, there followed an economic and technological boom with white goods, cars and other modern conveniences proliferating. This dovetailed perfectly with the rise of the media who profited hugely from the advertising dollar that poured in peddling the promise of ‘The Good Life’ to modern middle class Australians.
With the death of so many young men in the 1940’s plus the advent of women getting a taste for working during war time, 1950’s Australia was on the move. Some families now had two incomes for probably the first time in modern history. With more women working, some families could afford to pay more for housing. This drove up competition for housing and drove single income families either further out of the market or more deeply towards the option of debt to acquire a home.
Most families chose debt which prompted an ascent of housing prices and a descent into personal stress for many. Prices started to soar and financial pressure began to mount as demonstrated in the graph.
And so it began. The great Aussie dream. Own your own home, fill it with new and shiny appliances, buy, buy, buy. Look good like the people in the magazines. Keep up with the Jones’s. Work harder. Strive more. Accumulate debt if necessary to keep all the balls in the air. Sound familiar? In fact, currently Australia has the highest levels of accumulated household debit of any country in the world, recently nudging out Denmark.
I’m no economist, but successive governments endorse all this ‘growth’ and ‘spin’ it as a positive reflection of a healthy economy. However the personal cost is never taken into account in this equation but we can see it today with the rise of suicide rates, poverty, depression and stress related health problems.
What followed was a romance with debt which escalated to giddying heights in the 1980’s when debt soared and ‘the rich’ grew even further away from ‘the poor’. I must be old because I also remember one of the first widely available credit cards. It was called ‘Bankcard’ and as a 20 year old I couldn’t wait to get one. With all the free money (haha), I bought all the stuff I couldn’t afford. The banks saw me coming!
It took me decades to work out the con. I now live without credit cards and the only debt I carry is for the house and car. Much simpler yet still stressful!
Of course, there are all sorts of reasons for why we feel stressed and it is hugely complex. There are genetics, family stuff, addictions, stuff that happens outside of our control and many, many other causes but in my own life, financial stress is a big one and it leads to loads of other associated conditions and I am sure that I am not alone.
I suspect that the culture we live in and accept as ‘the norm’ which is all about endless growth and accumulation is killing us. Quite literally. I often think that I would manage the unpredictable stresses of life much better if the pressure to earn an income high enough to keep living in our current paradigm was lessened.
In the mean time, this is the world in which we live and the most effective way I have found to get by is to manage the stress as skillfully as possible. The Heartnicity Method of Awareness, Acceptance and Action grew out of my own desire to live a more peaceful life. I love this quote.
“Peace is not the absence of chaos, but rather finding yourself in the midst of that chaos and remaining calm in your heart“. Unknown
We can only do so much to diminish the external pressures but we can self soothe on a regular basis which gives us greater access to our creativity and eases the physiological strain on the body and helps us to reframe our own psychology.
So I invite you to take a moment right now. Close your eyes. Take a long breath. Send the message to your nervous system to relax for a moment. Find something to feel gratitude for. Do whatever it takes to deactivate the stress in your nervous system.
If you’d like to find a way to manage the stresses of our modern world with more skill and ease, then please join me on my next workshop on 5 June 2016 in East Gosford. It’s based on my book Getting to the Heart of Stress and I will lead you through some simple practices to help you stress less and thrive more in this modern world. Goodness knows I need that… how about you?
Much love and calm in your modern world until then
I am feeling very grateful to Petrea King and the Quest for Life Foundation for giving me the opportunity to live out a long held dream of speaking at the Happiness & Its Causes Conference this year. While it was terrifying to have such a large audience (over 1500), I got over prepared and it all went well. I hope this leads to more public speaking enagements as I really loved the experience and would love to keep contributing to the world in this way. Here it is if you are interested.
It was a Pecha Kucha format. 20 slides. 20 seconds per slide. Just to add to the pressure. Lol.
Are you feeling exhausted and want to replenish in body, mind and spirit?
19-21 October 2018
Phenomenal Woman Retreat… Walk to the sand at beautiful Killcare Beach. Refresh your spirit in the sea…
So many women that I talk to tell me how exhausted they feel. With the demands of work, family and the challenges of finding time for self care, you can feel so empty and tired. I didn’t create this retreat so that you have to fulfull another expectation and be ‘phenomenal’. I created it so that you could take time out, rest and then FEEL phenomenally GOOD! Inside of yourself…
I want you to meditate on the beach, paddle your toes in the salt water, find time for real conversations and to chill out. That is why I have created this beautiful weekend. Just for you. To retreat from the demands of life and to take time to focus on the most important person in the world… YOU.
You will be given the space to meditate, find stillness, listen to your heart and be in the company of like minded women. There will be healthy food, a gorgeous bedroom in a luxury beach house, crisp white sheets, gorgeous music, candles, the loving presence of other women and inspiring teaching to support you to find your own best answers. When you feel peaceful, answers arise organically…
And did I mention? There will be peace and space… plenty of peace and space
Please join me for a replenishing weekend. Email me now for more info and to secure your space!
I need to get final numbers in place now, so if you are considering joining us then please send me a message so that I can save you a space.
19-21 October 2018 with arrival from 4pm Friday and leave after lunch on Sunday by 3pm.
Hope to see you there. Make sure you book early so that you secure your place. In peace and joy…
I love this poem given to me by a dear friend and colleage, Bernadette. Whenever I read it I am reminded to settle down, to allow life to happen instead of pushing and straining to ‘make it happen’. It really is at the heart of the Phenomenal Woman Retreat too which is about empowerment and letting go of the old so that what you truly want in your heart can become your springboard for living.
She Let Go She let go.
Without a thought or a word, she let go.
She let go of the fear. She let go of the judgments. She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her. She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons.
Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.
She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a book on how to let go. She didn’t search the scriptures. She just let go. She let go of all of the memories that held her back. She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward. She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.
She didn’t promise to let go. She didn’t journal about it. She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer. She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper. She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope. She just let go.
She didn’t analyse whether she should let go. She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter. She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment. She didn’t call the prayer line. She didn’t utter one word. She just let go.
No one was around when it happened. There was no applause or congratulations. No one thanked her or praised her. No one noticed a thing. Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.
There was no effort. There was no struggle. It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad. It was what it was, and it is just that. In the space of letting go, she let it all be.
No one was around when it happened. There was no applause or congratulations. No one thanked her or praised her. No one noticed a thing. Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.
There was no effort. There was no struggle. It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad. It was what it was, and it is just that. In the space of letting go, she let it all be. A small smile came over her face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore.
Rev. Safire Rose
I also love this clip from the children’s movie Frozen. She is brave and strong and over apologising for herself! Worth a few minutes to listen to the lyrics.
Please join me 19-21 October at beautiful Killcare Beach for a connected, warm and inspiring retreat right at the beach and only 1.5 hours north of Sydney. Click here to find out more info and to secure your space.
Want to learn how to find your keys, wallet or phone easily?
In my book Getting to the Heart of Stress I have developed The Heartnicity Method which uses Awareness Acceptance and action to support you to live a conscious, joyful life on purpose.
With this in mind…I have an Awareness practice for you for eliminating and managing stress. over one specific area of your life.
Finding misplaced stuff!
Have you ever lost your keys inside the house? Who hasn’t? How about your wallet? Your phone? Your glasses? Are they on your head? The note with that important phone number you need? Or how about your handbag, charger or iPad? The list goes on doesn’t it?
Have you every stressed out about this? Running to get out the door? Need to be somewhere? Ahh!!
I used to spend so much time searching and searching and then cursing myself and stressing out over where I had put things plus it always happened when I most needed the thing!! Grrr. It was so frustrating!
This little awareness practice means that this rarely happens to me these days. Here it is.
When you put the item down consciously look at where you are placing it
Say the name of the item out loud. For example, “keys”
This implants the memory in both visual and spatial memory making it more likely to be recalled later. It is especially good if you put something down in an unusual place. I use it at home all the time but it’s especially useful if I am at someone else’s home or office or if I leave something in an odd spot.
When you go to look later say the word out loud again “keys”
This stimulates the neural pathway that you locked in place with the language and the image.
I recently left my phone on the laundry window sill to prevent it from accidentally falling in the tub and I knew this was an odd spot to put it. So I did the thing … said out loud, “phone” and clocked where I put it. Sure enough two hours later when I went to check my phone, it was not in my bag or any of the usual places and I thought to myself, as you do, “where is it”?
Instantly the neural network sprang into action with the image of where I had left my phone appeared in my mind. Easy!
I have found this little strategy to be a fantastic stress management tool in terms of reducing the frustration and pressure that comes when I’m frantically looking for something. I hope you find it useful too. Let me know how you go.
The next Getting to the Heart of Stress one day programs have just been scheduled for 8 July 2018 in Crows Nest, Sydney and 16 June 2018 in Coffs Harbour NSW. Please subscribe to this blog for notifications of more program dates and locations.
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I look forward to sharing with you again soon. Love, kisses, hugs and masses of gratitude to you for being you.
After years of trying just about every diet on the planet, I just lost 18 kilos! So, how did I do it?
I am going to tell the secret straight up. There is one vital key that all the many programs, including Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig etc that I have tried have not taught me in a useful way. The crucial key to permanently losing weight is… MOTIVATION!
“Without the ‘correct’ motivation, the method, system or plan you choose to manage your weight will be of no long-term use”.
Yes that’s right. No use.
How do I know this? Let me tell you a story… When I was 15 years old, I joined the first Weight Watchers group in Auckland New Zealand. That was decades ago, and I think it is safe to say that I am a ‘Lifetime Member’. I had made a new friend, named Terry, who was from America and her mother had moved to NZ to start Weight Watchers there, which was a burgeoning business in the US at that time.
I remember so well that dark, cold and drizzly evening in Auckland CBD. As I made my way to the meeting, I began to contemplate the ensuing deprivation, so I made a stop at the milk bar and as I stood around the corner from the stairway leading to the room in which we were meeting, I anxiously devoured 2 (not 1 but 2!) Chokito bars. Anyone remember them? A thick cover of chocolate with rice bubbles inserted into the chocolate layer and fudge in the middle. Yummy.
Anyway, with scarcity, hunger and self-denial looming, I STUFFED THEM DOWN! I was ravenous. The photo here is me with my friends when I was 15 years old in 1971. Jossy is in the middle, Terry is on the right and that’s me in the pink. I weighed 8 stone. Yes, I weighed 50 kilos and was my current height of 165 centimetres so had a BMI of 18.4! I thought I was “so fat” and was “too embarrassed” to go swimming.
How the hell and why the heck did Weight Watchers even let me join? But they did because money trumped health then and it still does.
This unfortunate scenario pretty well sums up the next 43 years of my life up to 2 years ago. Dieting, losing, gaining, gaining, gaining, dieting, losing… well you get it. Over and over and over again.
Like so many women who are desperate to lose weight, I had a psychological demon to wrestle with every moment of my life. I hated my body, felt ashamed and like a failure. I wrestled with myself and my self-worth was inextricably intertwined with my body image and weight.
I have joined and left Weight Watchers at least 15 times, spent a lot of money on meetings, snack bars and trying to cheat the system. I have so many books on dieting and nutrition it is downright impressive! I just opened iBook on my phone to see what I have there and without really trying I found the following titles:
Hungry for Change
Eat Fat, Get Thin
The 8-week Blood Sugar Diet
The 17 Day
BBC – What’s the Right Diet?
190 Vegetarian Recipes
Breakfast with Benefits
Easy Vegan Meals
The Fast Diet
The Great Cholesterol Myth
The Perfect Gene Diet
The Paleo Answer
The 4-Hour Body
I haven’t even checked iTunes on my PC (for books that haven’t been synced to my phone), nor have I checked Kindle or Kobo or Audible books and of course there are dozens of ‘real’ [paper] books on my bookshelves which are all packed with the same fodder (excuse the pun). Oh dear…
I have a LOT of knowledge but none of it helped until my mind was in the right place and none of it got me anywhere but fatter and fatter with short intermissions of thinner and thinner. So, you want to know what I have learned that has led me to successfully lose and maintain a healthy weight of 64 kilos? So here is it again…
Without the ‘correct’ motivation, the method, system or plan you choose to manage your weight will be of no long-term use.
Yep. You can put as much effort into dieting as you want over a lifetime but unless you have a motivating reason to change, it’s a huge waste of time and money because your willpower will fail one day when you see a crispy cream, or your friend is eating nachos smothered in melted cheese and guacamole. You will indulge, and you will feel like crap and then you will think that you may as well eat Maccas and gelato and pizza cause you’ve fallen off the wagon now anyway. That’s when self-hatred returns, and the kilos come back on. Rapidly. Sound familiar?
Motivation needs to be in line with your heart, your values and your willingness to feel happy. I strongly suggest you spend as much time as you need clarifying this first because “I want to avoid the shame I feel for being fat” just isn’t going to do it.
I love coaching people who are ready for this. It can take a few sessions, but I see the results in my clients and it is such a joy. I found my personal motivation, but it probably won’t be yours.
Here’s me 2 years ago before I found my motivation. 82 kilos and unwell.
I woke up on New Year’s Day 2016 in pain. I had sore fingers, wrists, ankles and feet. It was horrible, and I knew what it was… arthritis. After a month (and a lifetime) of drinking and socialising, eating whatever I wanted with as much sugar as I wanted, my body and my immune system finally gave up the ghost and sent me a loud and clear message.
“Dear Margie, I cannot take this anymore! I am inflamed all over! I am sick, and this cannot go on!”
But it could. It had gone on… for years. It’s just that my body had finally fallen off some autoimmune cliff, so to speak, and my leaky gut had leaked one too many bits of whatever it is that should never have gotten through the barrier a healthy gut provides.
It was a reality check. A wake-up call. My genetic predisposition had been ignited. Don’t think this is ‘just for older women’ either. Our genetic switches can be turned on at any time. I have met plenty of women in their 20’s and 30’s struggling with autoimmune issues as well as candida, SIBO, diabetes, obesity, acne and many other health issues.
Mine sat dormant for decades while I punished myself with fad diets, alcohol, sugar and bags of processed chips and crap. It finally tipped into a reaction, like levels in that old-style board game, Mouse Trap. You can ignore it and pretend you are fine but in the end your body doesn’t lie.
So, I set about looking for solutions. I knew had a book somewhere about autoimmune diseases and inflammation (of course) lol. I had done several ‘anti-inflam’ diets and I was sure I had a wall chart somewhere about the 20 best foods to avoid and the top 20 foods to eat (superfoods of course).
I began the experiment with a sample of one, me! I commenced trying different types of alcohol to find which ones I could tolerate but alas, after a year of testing gin, vodka, low-carb everything, low-alcohol everything, champagne only (I liked that phase) and red wine (lots of red wine) I had to admit that nothing had worked. In fact, things were worse. My fingers ached, they were red and sore, and I now had spurs growing on the ends of all my joints! Eek.
On 1 December 2016, I made the unexpected decision to GIVE UP ALCOHOL! What? I had been drinking since I was 14 so it was a surprise to everyone and especially to me. Some friends implored me not to. I couldn’t even believe it myself. Yet it was the only thing I had not tested in my one-person experiment on alcohol and its effects on arthritis.
Surprisingly, arthritis became my friend, my barometer and my gift. The constant motivator on my quest for health. And it did not stop at alcohol because while my symptoms reduced, they were far from gone. I needed to look further, and I needed to address both my nutrition and also my external environment. I needed to reduce the toxic load.
You might be thinking “well that’s all right for her, but I don’t have arthritis, so where am I going to get MY motivation”?
You know, the most disturbing thing I learned along the way? If you are overweight, have hormonal issues, IBS, are lacking energy, have aching joints, difficulty jumping out of bed or any of a million ‘signs of ill health’ then you probably have low grade inflammation. Here’s a few more symptoms from the MedicalNews Today website.
periodontitis (gum disease)
ulcerative colitis and Crohn’s disease
What shocked me was discovering that if we have any of the symptoms of inflammation in one place, we HAVE INFLAMMATION EVERYWHERE! Brain, heart, liver, blood etc. The body does not discriminate or section bits off. Inflammation is pervasive in the body. Remember alzheimer’s starts in your 20’s.
If you are looking for motivation, most of us need look no further! This is about quality of life.
So, what did I do?
I put the Heartnicity Method into practice.
Awareness – I did some research, spoke to my GP and faced the facts that my symptoms were the outcome of years of ignoring the early warning signs.
Acceptance – I surrendered to the face that I would have arthritis for the rest of my life and that I could ease the symptoms by changing my ways.
Action – I found my heart-based motivation for action which was to value myself, love my body and finally care for myself in a loving, practical and healing way.
I found an excellent protocol for healing my gut and repairing my immune system. I used an AIP (Autoimmune Protocol) called The Myers Way but there are plenty of others. It is basically an elimination diet for a month and then you gradually add foods back in. I have been adding back for a while and have identified an intolerance for legumes, nuts, seeds, dairy and all gluten which is incredibly inconvenient but well tested now and a reality at present.
Plus, I have lost my obsession with eating and food. I love to eat but will miss a meal or have a smoothie instead sometimes. Not eating bread is the hardest and there is no replacement because all ‘gluten free’ products and seeds are a no-no for my tricky little fingers too.
Here I am quite literally today…
That voracious ‘Chokito’ eating monster in my head has almost gone (almost lol) which is good, but the best news is that I am IN REMISSION from arthritis most days! Yay!
If I eat too much sugar or accidentally eat gluten when I am out, then I know about it within 24 hours. I am finely attuned to my bodily reactions but not obsessive. I eat lots. I eat well. I eat organic, grass fed and probably less variety. Lots of veggies and yummy coconut everything. I eat organic chocolate! I do ok… It’s a modified paleo diet with some of the paleo staples (like nuts & sees) removed.
The first 10 kilos fell of when I gave up alcohol. The next 8 also dissolved without effort when I stopped eating grains, sugar, legumes and processed foods. As my dear friend and brilliant yoga teacher Bernadette Arena says “it’s not rocket surgery” (check out her amazing Yoga Nidra CD here).
When my resolve weakens, and I want a piece of that delicious smelling, organic sourdough toast, I look down to my dear fingers and I remember how they feel when they ache. How it used to take 10 minutes to ‘warm my feet up’ every morning and how that’s no longer a problem. How I used to be a size 16 and now wear a size 12 and how I love being able to wear nice clothes again.
I love life! My motivation is more than ‘not wanting arthritis’ or look good. It’s wanting to be able to walk freely, to avoid future hip and knee replacements, to take up more challenging yoga, to think clearly and to sit on the floor cross legged with children. My goodness, I have started having baths again and didn’t even notice I had stopped because I could not get out safely any longer! I know I am going to die but I want to live well until I do.
And you can too! Take some time to establish your motivation for becoming healthy and it will change your life. Then you can apply it anywhere! Weight, career, home, relationships. This is the most crucial foundation for all your goals. Special note: remember to always seek your own medical advice as our bodies are complex and no issue can be nailed down to ‘just a lack of motivation’. I am just saying that without the motivation to regain our health, all of the strategies are harder to apply.
If you want support for your own weight loss and health recovery, then subscribe to this blog as I am just finalising dates for workshops on life purpose, stress and living on your path of heart for the second half of 2018. My annual Phenomenal Woman Retreat is nearly set too so stay tuned.
I would love to help you find your motivation and support you to leave the self-loathing behind, love yourself and love life for as long as possible.
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I look forward to sharing with you next week. I post on Saturdays at 3pm. Love, kisses, hugs and masses of gratitude to you for being you. Remember to Love Life!
In 2015 I went into a spiral of worry about money, about my health, about my relationship with my husband, about my career and about life in general. I was teetering on the edge of an emotional bottomless pit and my whole life seemed to be moving in a downward vortex of depression and anxiety which both came knocking in a serious way and since then I have relearned how to Love Life!
As a psychotherapist and teacher, I knew the answer wasn’t about the external circumstances, though Goddess knows I wanted to change them.
I went back to therapy and through the love and support of a wonderful therapist, I came to recognise that fundamentally, I felt stressed out all the time. The causes of the stress were ‘real’ enough but I needed to understand why I felt so helpless and such a victim to the ravages of stress both mentally and physically.
My blog is for women. I love men, but I reckon most of my followers are phenomenal women who are seekers and want to feel competent, happy and balanced. You want to manage the stresses of everyday life like motherhood, being a partner, being single, working like crazy and keeping all the balls in the air and have an interest in living a conscious life, feeling full of joy, living in a way that values others and most importantly yourself. You make responsible, sustainable choices that benefit both humanity and planet earth. and can genuinely and authentically say I “Love Life!” (yes there will a t-shirt or more likely an organic cotton Yoga singlet)
I choose not to accept that this is “as good as it gets” and I never will. I want to keep growing until the day I die (which is approaching faster than I would like lol). I have always wanted answers, so when life turned to shit, I set out to re-design my life from the ground up. What that meant was I had to essentially re-design myself.
Since I launched Heartnicity in 2015 and publishing Getting to the Heart of Stress, I have presented a range of workshops and retreats to support other women, given up alcohol, taken up yoga, completely changed my diet, lost 18 kilos and reached a new level of intimacy with my life partner.
In the process I’ve crystallised all I’ve learnt from many years as a therapist and educator into a simple 3 step method called The Heartnicity Method and I’m going to share with you what it’s like to put that into practice. I invite you into my life to see how I approach the stressful environments of 21st century living with Awareness, Acceptance and making heart-based choices and Action that keep me living on my Path of Heart.
I have had so much pleasure rediscovering my love of fashion, beauty and all the other ‘Toys of Life’ stuff and really feel good about my self-image again. I am on a beautiful and delightful path of self-care…
So, would you like to join me? Then just subscribe to my YouTube channel! I will be uploading every Saturday.
I plan to explore the Big Questions like:
What’s the point if we’re all going to die anyway? Will I ever be happy? How do I manage stress well? What’s in the way of me Loving Life? Can I love clothes, makeup and shopping and still be spiritual? What is glowing good health? and how do I get me some?
Here are some words that capture what I’m all about!
Conscious, Natural, Organic, Education, Mindful, Cutting Edge, Science, Neuroscience, Reality, Authentic, Joy, Meditation, Yoga, Nutrition, Fashion, Beauty, Healthy Ageing, Books, Blogs, Technology, Spirituality, Duality, Remarkable Women, Health, Friends, Lovers, Personal Development, Fun, Leisure, Sex After 50, Celibacy, Travel, Finances, Freedom, Plants, Family, Sanctuary, Gorgeous Clothes, Beautiful Bed Linen, Feminism, Body Image, Growing Organic Stuff, Making Natural Stuff, Smelling Adorable Stuff, Connecting With Others, The Wisdom Of Women, Walking Barefoot, Sand Between My Toes, Salt Air, Mountains, Australian Bush, Love, Solitude and Big Naps.
I’m going to be interviewing women who are aligned with me and discovering what motivates them. I’ve got some gorgeous product ideas to share with you and maybe even some giveaways on the horizon, so we can all feel just a bit more adored and nurtured.
There will be live events, retreats, webinars, video logs and links to great stuff I find out about that I think you might love too!
I want you to feelinspired to grow, educated to know and motivated to glow…
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The video log on my YouTube page is part of the new incarnation of my inner Boggess so I have cleared the history and as a result, YouTube is a bit sparse, but I will be adding regularly.
I really believe you can love your life more as you travel on your path and I look forward to sharing with you how I have done this and how you can too.
Love, kisses, hugs and masses of gratitude to you for reading until the end. As my dear friend Mirva says “Love you, Love you, Love you!”
Beautiful, sensual and connected retreat for women only at Killcare Beach for the Phenomenal woman that you truly are. Venue will be 38 Beach Drive Killcare with another house close by for extra accommodation. We will be meditating, laughing, dancing, walking on the beach, dreaming in rainbow colours and most of all reminding ourselves of being the beautiful women we all are. You will leave upllifted, nourished and full of joy.
In the spirit of community, I will be asking each woman to contribute to one meal each. You will receive a menu to choose from. Numbers will be limited. Single and shared accommodation will be available (single room will have a premium added) and you will need to bring your own linen.For more details go to the Heartnicity website or email me directly. We have just 2 spaces left.
$395 king single shared room
Arrive from 4 pm Friday 17 November – Depart by 3 pm Sunday 19 November 2017